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The beggar by the house of glass

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The beggar by the house of glass

The beggar by the house of glass

One day, I glanced out the window as we passed by a fancy eatery and saw a mendicant by the sidewalk. The system was beautifully built and made from glass. It was built in such a way that people outside could see the people inside and their activities. I can’t say why eateries choose these aesthetics.

There was the tattered beggar by the eatery’s sidewalk the caught my attention. He had this nostalgic glance and wisely looked at the merry men, and had a nice time in the restaurant, you might tell that he wished that the glass barrier would somehow vanish and that he would appear there in nice clothes and table, wine and dinner with family.

I ‘m sure he would wish the security guy at the door would also be able to give him a chance to just enter the restaurant. But the question is, will he be able to pay for the expensive meals if he were to be allowed in? Or would his currency be pitiable? Or maybe he believes the famous saying: If you’re hanging around a barber’s shop long enough, you’ll get a free haircut.

But I think the beggar’s best hope is that the people stopping to eat would give him an extra plate on their way out, or give him money that would be enough to buy him a decent meal even if it’s not from that especially expensive restaurant.

My Thoughts

In a general sense, I’d oblige the consensus that jealousy is certifiably not a decent thing. But it’s more complicated. If we tightened it down, we see that envy is a type of want, explicitly focussed on things that have a place with other people.

Desire implies that we need to connect for something that we consider as alluring, thus, as something we need for ourselves. When the thing we’re desirous of is something external, similar to another person’s cash, partner, car, work, and so on, we want joy rather than happiness.

The focal point of our jealousy is coordinated towards what the Stoics call ‘favoured indifference’, which are ideal to have yet a bit much for happiness. Moreover, outside things are not in our control; they could be removed instantly, which makes them inconsistent and weak.

When we’re jealous about something internal, like the idealistic activities of somebody else and their inward harmony and joy, it might be a sign that we have work to do on ourselves. Needless to state: the Stoics would encourage the want of being virtuous. Paradoxically, when we seek after temperance and reinforce our resources, we’re probably going to dispose of jealousy altogether.

As Epictetus stated: You might be unconquerable, on the off chance that you go into no battle where it isn’t in your control to conquer. When, along these lines, you see anybody famous in honours, or influence, or high regard on any other account, notice not to be hurried away with the appearance, and to pronounce him upbeat; for, if the substance of good consists in things in your control, there will be no space for jealousy or emulation.

End quote. Unfortunately, a few people stick to envy so much that they take part in unethical behaviour like stealing, infidelity and even murder. In the Old Testament and the Quran, we find an anecdote about the contention between the brothers Cain and Abel; children of Adam and Eve. Cain was a rancher and Abel was a shepherd. Cain offered God a piece of his yields, while Abel offered God the firstlings of his flock.

Cain killed his sibling after God accepted Abel’s contributions while He dismissed his. The antiquated sacred writings don’t explicitly mention envy, yet understandings of this story amplify the subject of desirous rivalry between kin, which is very basic to this day. However, the old sacred texts don’t mention why God did this: was He eccentric and treated Cain and Abel contrastingly for no reason?

This could be the case. Another plausibility is that Abel acted more virtuously, by giving God the best of his flock just as a blood offering, while Cain’sofferings were of lesser quality. Interestingly enough, the two situations are great starting focuses to take a gander at envy from a Stoic point of view, and use them as similitudes for dealing with envy in our every day lives.

The first situation is that Abel without a doubt acted more in an upright manner and was, therefore, rewarded by God. In this case, we can see the blood offering by Abel as a representation for, what the Stoics would call, a demonstration of virtue. According to the Stoics, goodness prompts eudaimonia, that can be interpreted as human flourishing, essentially, happiness. Thus, we could state that Cain was desirous of Abel’s righteousness and the outcomes of that virtue. This doesn’t make begrudge an awful thing.

At least, not yet. The issue is, in any case, that numerous envious people try to demolish what they’re envious of as opposed to utilizing jealousy to lift themselves. So, rather than killing his sibling, Cain could have utilized the flash of jealousy to acknowledge that Abel was making a superior showing than him, and see his sibling as a motivation for becoming more prudent himself. The second situation is that God denied Cain’sofferings for reasons unknown, which fundamentally resembles the methods of the universe that are very random and unfair. Some individuals are conceived in rich families, others in poverty.

Some individuals are talented with extraordinary intelligence, others are intellectually disabled. This shamefulness could have incensed Cain so much, that he chose to act out. If Seneca was around then, he could have revealed to Cain that the injustice of life doesn’t impact the capacity to be happy. I quote: Come now, differentiate a decent man who is rolling in riches with a man who has nothing, except that in himself he has all things; they will be similarly great, however, they experience inconsistent fortune.

This same norm, as I have commented, is to be applied to things just as to men; virtue is similarly as laudable if it dwells in a sound and free body, as in one which is wiped out or in bondage. End quote. So, is begrudge a terrible thing? It truly relies upon what we’re envious of and how we handle it. For the most part, being jealous because of externals is somewhat pointless.

They’re ideal to have, yet they won’t obstruct the capacity to be happy. On the other hand, we can utilize envy as a tool to better ourselves. Although the Stoics aren’t extremely partial to (basically) seeking after material riches, it’s still possible to use envy as a motivation to accomplish this, if that is the thing that you want. The clouded side of jealousy is that it can also be an impetus to annihilate the thing or individual we’re desirous of.

In this case, sticking to envy is a risky thing. I figure the most ideal approach to treat envy is by awareness. Why am I envious? Is my jealousy legitimized (as it were: does the thing I want genuinely lead to happiness)? Can I utilize my jealousy to better myself and subsequently get free of envy?

No matter on the off chance that we take a gander at Buddhism, Stoicismor Christianity; the dependable guideline is: if we simply centre around our way and be grateful for what we have, there’s no motivation to be envious of anything.Thank you for viewing.

But the question is: Are there such decent people? Or is the beggar going to have to wait until the remnants are poured into the trashcan before he can choose his pick? It’s a pity that faced with such an abundance, hunger raged in his life. But that is the harsh reality of life, especially in this part of the world where it is difficult for more than 60% of the population to feed amid abundant natural resources.

No one can be blamed in the same light for not offering the beggar food, as he seemed physically fit to get a job, no matter how menial. After all, nobody, except you, is ultimately responsible for you.

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The Stinger vs. The Prankee

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The stinger vs. the prankee

A young girl went to the ATM in the evening to withdraw some money. She encountered another guy on getting there, who wanted to withdraw money too. They were there alone, just the both of them. She found that the guy kept looking at her as she was carrying out her own transaction.

The stinger vs. the prankee

The stinger vs. the prankee

The girl pretended not to notice the guy’s eyes on her as predicted and continued her transaction. And then she heard all of a sudden, give me your cell! What sort of heck? The girl was screaming with terror. The guy then had started to laugh. I mean intense, stomach twisting laughter o.

The girl was puzzled. What was so funny? Was this part of a joke or something? Who is it that does this? When the guy eventually spoke up, he said, this is how these little boys do and collect phones from people o, I’m sorry I was kidding. My name is Saul Bishop, what’s yours?

Sometimes pranks are really cool, but it loses touch when the pranker is unfamiliar with its limits and the prankee is not psychologically strong enough. Most people aren’t conscious of it, let alone accept boundaries. Stick to simple jokes please, unless you have developed a pranking relationship with somebody. Occasionally, you may not see things the same way the other person sees things.

Davido Prank!

The actors arrived at Davido’s house to inform him that they came to collect the refund first show that you were going there, and his gang was very angry at the intrusion, they came down the stairs that 
our actors tried to be reasonable, but David doesn’t have it, things are getting dangerous mission accomplished, it’s time to get daVido out of his misery, ‘oh, don’t you touch me, you got it, yeah, you know.
Kizz  Daniel Prank!

Earlier in the day kizz Daniel calls our producer to say that he’d be late for his interview, kizz Daniel finally arrives and the crew pretend to be in a bad mood because he’s late.

kizz Daniel get comfortable by starting the show I’m shaking my camera I’m sorry this one next up Stephanie starts to exchange words with the producer a celebrity guest in there what’s the difference between, though are you ready I’ve been ready for three hours, okay but I know its my fault.

Children don’t know how to give themselves sense these days, surprised, the crew members were like… did our producer just call kizz Daniel a child?, and of course, it’s the only official countdown coming out of Nigeria we’ve got so much we’ve got bloggers print partners and of course, wait what oh I’m so tired and then my heart it was more like four hours like,

I don’t understand kizz Daniel starts to get uncomfortable as the argument escalates.

Dija Prank!

Maven princess dija is the target of today’s prank helping us with the prank is DiJa’s labelmate reekado banks. Dija has been called in for a meeting with her label mates but before the meeting starts Ricardo asks to speak to her privately Ricardo has decided to reveal to dija a secret her manager has been keeping from her according to him Don Jazzy wants diva to change her friend and start to wear more revealing clothes.

Just then DiJa’s manager walks in on them, I wasn’t very good?  only for Dija to forget the clothes, got angry and walked away. I tried convinced that the conversation was not serious, but her manager quickly reveals that we need to change up the look we understand that if you understand when you change up the look and all that stuff you know not really very serious.

People are saying that you’re covering too much you need to show up something, show something look at this job is showbiz, people decide we don’t need no Internet. Eventually, they decided to put Dija out of her misery

You can just trick a person with high blood pressure to put the person on the hospital bed because “you’ve been kidding.”
One more thing, look at someone you are pranking in the face and body language. Expressions say more than 1,000 characters. Learn to note when the person is uncomfortable. The person may not express his / her opinion, but please take note of nonverbal indications. If you go overboard this will let you know.
And learn to be jovial and carefree for the prankee. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Be fairly approachable. There is a saying that Fun heals. Take one step at a time, and live life in the best possible way.

Ps: Still asking about the girl? Okay, while almost out of breath, she briskly walked back home with trembling legs. She just stopped at her doorstep to check her balance using her mobile app, where she knew she was safe.

She had learned so much about boys yahoo-yahoo and she wasn’t ready to part with her remaining # 1500 just yet because that’s all she had for feeding till the end of the month. Do you blame her on that? With such a joke in the evening at an ATM booth who wouldn’t be afraid?
Ever been the frightening pranker or the scared prankee? Have you ever fallen for it? Tell us about it in the segment for Comments.

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Is this love? OR Karma at Work?

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Could this be love?
Could this be love?

Could this be love?

I met my boyfriend (married tho) 3months ago and I must say since then we have been inseparable the love, care and attention I have never gotten from a single guy, of recent he has warned me not to call! him at odd hours cause of his wife of which I try to be understanding.

But it pains that am the one being kept in the dark so am thinking should I accept his proposal to be his wife (second) I don’t know what to do should I. Please I need ur advise on this. My identity should be hidden, please.

I just saved someone’s marriage

Could this be love?

Good morning Joro, Hide my identity please There was this fine guy I met in March this year, he is a very free, nice and funny person… I started falling for him, he asked me out and I really can’t tell the spirit that told me to ask him about his marital status And he didn’t lie, he told me he was married with two kids but that won’t change anything Can you imagine??

I was confused, devastated and heartbroken, he promised to take good care of me and give me all the attention I needed I was in between dating him and changing my phone (my phone has been giving issues lately), resuscitating my business that has fallen or reject his proposal with an empty pocket and a free mind

But I had to reject it for my own peace of mind… I can’t be a home breaker, I advised him to go fix his home and I backed out I know God will provide for me, breaking someone’s home shouldn’t be by means of breakthrough.

She: Hey mumy wish you a happy mothers day.. Thank you So much for giving birth to such a lovely son for me.. Wish we weren’t on lockdown would have come and spent the day with you .mayb prepare you a special mothers day meal 11:4′?

Mum: Thank you. But don’t forget you not married to my Son. So don’t claim him he is not yours yet. If you spend time with me who will spend time with your mum., spend time with your mum and leave me alone you not my daughter-in-law yet., don’t push too hard you might not even get married to my son., make that special meal for your mum… Nice day

Karma?

I GUESS THIS IS MY OWN KARMA
Today my husband dressed up and said he was going out, I asked him where is he going? Oga said it’s not my business. I said he has to tell me today because he has been doing this going out thing since lockdown. Sometimes he will come home with different clothes self.

I have been looking at him Today I stood my ground Next thing Oga said was why am I forming saint that didn’t I sleep with married men as a student that why am I.

This is a relationship issue but I really don’t know if I want advice but I really need to clear my mind and my chest because it’s been so heavy of recent.
I recently found out my boyfriend restricted my comments on Instagram. Restriction meaning I can only see my comments but no one else can. At first, I thought it was it was a network issue my side, so I tried checking with someone else’s account, like 4 different Instagram accounts and my business page too and I couldn’t find my comments on his page.

But if I use my account to check the comments, I’ll see them. Since I found out about this, I’ve been feeling so different, having mood swings, getting angry necessarily and talking less these days. 0 Like why would he restrict me from his page? I also found out that he has been “running outside packages”. I prefer to call it outside packages because that’s the best way to describe it. Like how can you have a Girlfriend you claim you love and you’re in every girl’s DM requesting for meet up and hook up? Like how? He had an affair in the past, we talked about it, he apologized and promised not to do so again. Of which I believed him, but not completely.

Of recent, I got to find out that he has been sleeping with different Unilag girls, making out with some other girls, hanging out with them & he even treats them the way he treats me; Calls them the same names he calls me. When I started noticing some funny kinds of stuff, I would call him & talk to him about it but he would say they are just online friends and they don’t have anything doing but they keep calling him every time and he•would•refuse to pick up when I’m around.

They also call at odd hours too. A few days back, my phone fell and the screen cracked very badly. I was unable to type properly or even post on my business page. It got to a point I got frustrated and my boyfriend gave me his other phone to use.

What I planned on doing with the phone was to just type captions, forward it to my own WhatsApp in my phone, copy it & paste on my Instagram page that’s all. But I was unable to find the WhatsApp on the phone, I kept wondering that “why would he give me he phone to use then hide his WhatsApp when he knows what I want to use the phone to do” because I would need to type the Caption in his phone, forward it to my own WhatsApp in my phone & paste it because my screen is bad.

At last, I found the WhatsApp, did what I wanted to do & kept the phone where I saw it. I did this for two days straight without snooping around or checking stuffs. I got bored one day and I decided to use his phone that’s how I saw chats, messages etc.

I got to find out that he has been having several affairs outside, running different packages, making out with different girls, doing stuff I won’t even want to be done to my enemy. Yes, it’s that bad. I’m trying my best not to put everything out & also summarize because this is becoming different girls, doing stuff I won’t even want to be done to my enemy. Yes, it’s that bad. I’m trying my best not to put everything out & also summarize because this is becoming very lengthy.

He promised he has only had with just ONE  person while we are dating but from the looks of it, it’s not just 1, 3, 5 or 6 persons lol.. he has had with °different people that he doesn’t even know 0 who is who. I saw a picture on his phone, a naked girl on his bed, he claimed I’m setting him up lol.

That he doesn’t know the girl. But the girl was clearly lying down on the very bed that I chose its position to be, lying down on the exact beddings & duvet we bought, and the picture was on his camera, not Screenshots ohh.. But Camera which means it was taken from his phone. lol.

I also got to find out his friends knows about his external affairs and they would be calling me wifey lol.. These are people that I run to talk about my relationship troubles with their friend. And they would advice me and always say they Don’t know why he’s acting that way.

On one occasion, I was talking to his friend about the issues I was having with my Boyfriend and his reply was “If you can leave, can you leave?” I knew what that meant but I just kept quiet. Now everything sums up. I’m not angry anymore, I’m just a little bit sad but my only question is why would someone do such a thing to me?

I’ve never wronged him before, I’ve never had an external affair outside this relationship, i try to please him a lot sometimes displeasing myself lol, I try my very best to make him happy too, I don’t even have friends as he’s my only friend right now, I don’t even know how to reply when someone compliments me or “Chykes” me lol.. as he’s the only Guy I’ve dated for this long. These days I’m all about my business, my family and HIM.

He made me stop talking to most of my friends because he felt they were “Toxic” lol.. I also got to find out Stinks! te recently been liking all my photos, and she even bought something from me on my business page. Such disrespect lol.. You’re fucking my man and you’re coming to rub it on my face indirectly 0. I said I wasn’t angry earlier but as I typing this.

I’m pretty much angry and I’m so close to shedding tears. He’s nice, makes me laugh, We-vibe together, we play a lot, he’s my only friend right now, he spoils me & make me happy. But why would he do these to me? and whenever I confront him, he acts like I’m the one at fault and always gets angry for checking his phone.

In his words “I’ve told you to stop checking my phone, what you’re looking for, you’ll see it, why can’t you just be happy with the way things are instead of looking for stuff you are not supposed to see. Na you go use your hand kill your self’ lol.. That’s what he always say when I confront him about chats I see or whenever I suspect stuff.

I’m not angry anymore, I just feel better for opening up and releasing the heavy load on my chest. At least, I tried. I stayed faithful, I loved him, I spoke about him to my friends, Caitlin & cousins, all of them knows. I never for once cheated on him or flirt with other guys, I even travelled down before the lockdown to come see him & take care of him because he was terribly sick and he doesn’t know how to cook and he still did these.

He’s already making friends with a new girl on his street, flirting and calling her those names he calls me. I feel the only difference between Me and them is just the “Girlfriend title” because the way he treats me, is the way he treats them. The pet names he calls me, are the same names he calls them. The people he told me had cut off ties with, he’s still chatting & talking with them percent and still Babying them.

I’m not saying he shouldn’t have friends, but he should have friends and not keep it a secret. He should have friends and not be flicking them. He should have friends and not be TALKING TO THEM ABOUT ME & STILL BE NACKING THEM OR IN THE PROCESS TO.. Even when they know he’s dating and they keep saying NO to his offers.
Also, he never accepts he’s wrong even when it’s so obvious he’s wrong except there’s proof. When I confronted him last night about this, the WAY lying would make pros, I took screenshots Just Incase e deletes them. I showed it to him and he got angry, started shouting that I’m monitoring him lol..

How biko? he insulted me, called me names and said I shouldn’t talk to him again. I don’t feel a thing. Now I’m finally getting to believe the saying that “A cheat will always be a cheat” no matter how he garnishes his doings.
I’m fine though, I would have used Business to cover up and keep my self busy and my mind from straying too far & thinking too much lol.. but the business hasn’t been going fine due to the pandemic.

But I’m glad I’m alive, I’ll surely scale through. Y’all should continue Staying indoors & Staying Safe too. I can’t wait for thIs, then •

Have a nice day MY PEOPLE

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